Here is my second article on the Sacred Prostitute, written in 2020 and published on this blog for the first time.
This series of writings is about brining awareness to the instinctive, erotic facet of feminine nature which has long been misunderstood, devalued, and lost in Western culture. By exploring the positive image of the Sacred Prostitute as a servant of the Divine Goddess of love we can begin to understand what she represents for humanity today.
In contemporary thought, the notion of the Sacred Prostitute confronts us with a mysterious paradox; the Divine Spirit in opposition to corporeal defilement. It is difficult to bring these two words together in a world where mind is separated from matter and Christianity has brought the spiritual in direct conflict with passionate love. Patriarchy’s betrayal of the feminine has caused the Goddess of love, passion, and sex to become lost, severing the divine connection between spirituality and sexuality.
In a world that no longer venerates her we find humanity suffering with an emptiness that is pushed down through substance abuse, addiction, physical abuse, sexual promiscuity, and living busy lives. Female sexuality has been exploited and debased instead of revered, causing both men and women to feel unloved and unworthy of being loved, with many losing the capacity to love.
According to Jungian psychology the Goddess is an archetype that is part of the human psyche, which, when activated, can transform consciousness so that we can experience the vitality of love, beauty, sexual passion, and spiritual ecstasy. When it is inactive, as in modern life, the loss of the archetypal feminine brings discontent and emptiness, devoid of creativity, to the patriarchal collective.
The Sacred Prostitute was a radiant, self-confident, and sensuous woman whose role it was to bring the joy and passion of the goddess’ love to mankind. She was an initiated temple priestess who was spiritually receptive to the cosmic energy of beauty and passion flowing from the goddess. She invoked the Goddess as a transformative power, mediating the split between sexuality and spirituality. This expression of divine love caused the masculine and feminine to unite in divine harmony with the spiritual and the physical, creating spiritual renewal for humanity.
Having written my recent posts on Tantra, a friend suggested I read The Sacred Prostitute, which discusses the sacred feminine in relation to Carl Jung’s work on the architype of the Godess of Love. I realised that I had read this book back in 2020 and was inspired to write a blog post about it, which I never published on this site. So here is the original post.
The divine feminine has been suppressed on this planet for thousands of years by the patriarchal control system. The deception has been passed down through our ancestral lines making it so great that the collective healing process will be painful as it will require us all to confront our beliefs and blockages.
One such misunderstanding which can trigger wounds is about the true role of prostitutes and the meaning of the word prostitution. This is a provocative topic loaded with distortions and trauma experienced by the feminine collective but it is only by shining our light in the darkness and speaking about the truth that we can truly heal.
We need to understand that there are two definitions which have entirely separate meanings:
1. Patriarchal prostitution from the matrix slave system.
2. Sacred prostitution practiced as a spiritual and healing act by divine goddesses.
In the times before patriarchy and the matrix slave system the word ‘prostitution’ was not contaminated as it is now with negative connotations. In its original meaning, prostitution was a sacred act practiced by the temple priestesses who were initiated into the goddess mysteries, the secret teachings of Isis from Egypt. High priestesses who served in the temples were initiated women who offered their bodies and souls to heal men through the free flow of sexual and heart energy and connection to the source.
The priestess therefore was standing firm in her sovereignty, anchored in her goddess presence in front of the man, expressing and radiating pure goddess love for his healing.
The power of the divine feminine as embodied on earth by Mary Magdalene has been edited out of Christianity by falsely labelling her as a prostitute in the Bible. According to xxx in a previous incarnation in Ancient Egypt she was a High Priestess initiated into the Mysteries of Isis, and therefore a sacred prostitute. The Romans would have known this and sought to diminish her feminine energy and influence. In spite of this Mary and Jesus came together in a powerful union of the divine feminine and the divine masculine to anchor universal love in the Earth, therefore enabling Christ Consciousness to slowly develop and bring in the great awakening.
You can read more about the sacred prostitutes here: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/907793.The_Sacred_Prostitute
This blog post was inspired by a man I know who was assisting a couple with their family business. The couple were experiencing difficulties in their relationship, which was causing major financial issues. He discovered that their financial problems had been caused by the husband having not healed enough from his childhood trauma to stand in his true divine masculine power in either their romantic or business relationships.
He also correctly identified that as a result of the husband’s shortcoming, the wife was lacking connection with the divine masculine energy. However, rather than working with the husband to build the divine masculine in him, he took it upon himself to supply the energy to the wife himself through full contact hugs. After a while she abruptly dismissed the man for a reason that was nothing to do with his work performance. Unbeknown to him, his act of compassion for the wife may have been creating a bond of intimacy, which she then decided to break.
Musing on the sudden and brutal nature of his dismissal I felt compassion for him and experienced a pain across my heart chakra which I transmuted back into love. The performance of this metaphysical action caused me to remember the power that we all hold in our heart space. I have previously written about the importance of holding heart-centred, loving energy for discernment and as a way of moving away from ego into the divine energy of 5D, but I haven’t yet shared my research into Tantra and how it introduced me to another powerful role the heart chakra plays.
In chapter three of her book, The Heart of Tantric Sex – A Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfilment, Diana Richardson introduces the enlightening concept of ‘Polarity and the Positive Poles of Love’. She explains that the basis of Tantra is the creation of sexual experience through the dynamic interplay between the opposing positive and negative magnetic forces of the masculine and feminine energy.
The male represents the positive and the female the negative and it is this polarity that is the true source of sexual ecstasy. When the male and female bodies are in sexual union a powerful magnetic field is created and bio-energy is circulated between the couple. This Kundalini energy is transferred through the meeting of the positive and negative poles on both the male and female bodies.
In women the breasts are the positive pole and this is complemented by the male heart chakra which is the negative pole. Her loving, feminine energy is transmitted through her breasts to the male through his heart chakra. It moves down the spiral to his penis: his positive pole. The penis then transfers the masculine energy to the woman by connecting with the negative pole of the vagina, pushing the energy up into her heart chakra, thus completing the bio-electric circuit, creating a powerful union and true sexual fulfilment.
Western society places much emphasis on the union between the lower poles but provides very little information about the roles the upper poles play in loving relationships. Therefore, discussions about sex and our own direct experience of sexual contact tend to focus attention on the achievement of orgasm through the stimulation of the lower poles, which the author explains can lead to frustration and lack of fulfilment.
In contrast the Tantric approach to lovemaking gives more focus to the stimulation of the breasts throughout the encounter, since they have the same energetic potential as the penis. This generates an equality between the upper and lower poles that isn’t usually considered.
With a focus on the feelings involved in the now moment, Tantra also removes the goal of orgasm and therefore the perceived necessity for excessive stimulation of the lower poles. This shifts our focus the to the feelings resulting from energy transfer, which occur on a more subtle, yet deeper level of experience. In turn expectation is reduced and any stress about sexual performance disappears, creating a more relaxed encounter which has the potential for deeper feeling.
The Tantric journey of love begins with eye contact to establish trust, gentle touch on the non-sexual parts of the body to focus attention on feeling in the now moment, before progression to establishing contact between the poles. Once trust and attainment with feeling has been established, polarity contact starts with a full-frontal hug whereby the heart chakras meet and the breasts transfer the female energy. This would evolve into contact between the penis and the vagina creating a continuous loop of energetic exchange through the positive and negative poles. In this way neither the man nor the woman would become depleted of energy, as they are both continually filling each other up through an endless circuit of energetic exchange.
The equal and complementary nature of the poles and the sharing of energy means that an energetic transfer can occur without doing anything. Basic contact between the poles is enough to create an energy transfer that develops feelings of love and arousal without the need for excessive friction or stimulation. This makes a full-frontal hug between a man and a woman a very powerful experience. As a powerful form of energetic transfer this form of hug is actually a very intimate experience and, in my opinion, should be reserved for relationships where intimacy is to be promoted between consenting partners.
There are some men within the spiritual and plant medicine circles that I have observed who are more relaxed and bodily aware than the majority. They sometimes perform breast-squeezing hugs with women who are not their sexual partners and who may be acquaintances or friends. It could be said that a single man exhibits this behaviour to fulfil a subconscious need for connection with female energy. However, I have also witnessed men who already have a romantic partner engaging in this type of hug with other women. In both cases, they are opening an energetic circuit and therefore receiving energy from the woman. I have also observed either a subconscious or conscious enjoyment by the man of witnessing the pleasure that it gives the woman when she experiences this energetic exchange; which may give them the impression that they are giving rather than receiving.
However, as someone who has experienced both forms, I can attest that it may be unsettling for the woman in either case. This is because her energy has been taken and has not been replenished by reciprocation from the male via his positive pole. The energetic circuit has been opened but not completed, leaving a vacuum.
A parallel could be drawn between sexual union, which some women considering to be a bonding experience with the man they love. These woman can be left feeling hurt and used by promiscuous men who are having the experience for their own pleasure. In this case the man is not making love to her in the true sense because he is not giving his love and energy to her, so the energy circuit is not completed. A woman experiencing this may fee empty and unfulfilled as a result. Such a woman may consider the full frontal hug as signal from the man that he is interested in taking their relationship from friendship into romantic partnership; so when this fails to materialise she may feel let down, and similarly empty. Of course, it is not to say that other women cannot enjoy these experiences.
In Tantra, connection of the positive and negative poles forms a deeper energetic transfer that is meant to be part of sexual union. So if we consider the close hug from a Tantric perspective, the woman who has received such a hug from a man who is not her partner may be left with feelings of having been used because she can feel her energy has been taken. When experienced with loving intention, contact between the poles it is a way of building intimacy between a couple that are starting a romantic relationship. It achieves greater depth and power when the man has developed his energy so that he enters the divine masculine. The contact with the woman has greater resonance if she is in her divine feminine. This union of divine energy is the pinnacle of relational experience.
However, there is a dark aspect to this energy transfer. When the close hug is performed by men who are not interested in building intimacy as part of a relationship it can become problematic for the woman if she is left feeling that something has been taken from her. Should the man be meeting his own energetic needs to the detriment of the woman, then we are experiencing the dark aspect of the hug as a form of violation and/or a crossing of boundaries in the same way that casual sex by one party is misunderstood as intimacy and bonding by the other; her enjoyment of the hug may cause her to seek further intimacy and if the man doesn’t reciprocate she may feel that she has been led down the garden path.
In my experience, when a man for whom I have no romantic interest suddenly surprises me with a close hug the shock of the my nipples coming into contact with the man’s chest is at odds with the pleasurable feeling that is created. Then the hug ends and I am left flooded with sexual arousal and I have then been left feeling confused about the nature of the relationship and feeling that a boundary has been crossed.
The flip side of this would be a woman giving a man who is not her sexual partner a close hug and then rubbing her pelvis against his penis. This would also be considered contact with the positive and negative poles between the masculine and the feminine. The question is would that be deemed to be appropriate behaviour? Does the answer to that question cast doubt over the appropriate nature of the close hug between a man and a woman who are not in a relationship?
The Yin-Yang symbol is a Taoist symbol comprising a circle divided into two halves, one white and one black, each containing a small circle of the opposite colour. The black and white halves represent the primordial masculine and feminine energies whose interaction creates universal manifestation. They are mutually-arising, interdependent, and coninuously transfoming just as day turns into night and birth moves towards death. One cannot exist without the other because each contains the essence of the other.
In patriarchal societies seeking to repress feminine energy the expression of sexuality and sensuality by women has been punished by intimidation, oppression, and persecution creating a fear of physical touch. Tantra teaches us that the the sexiest potential we have isn’t based on physicality, either through looks or sexual techniques, but by fostering connection and intimacy through touch.
By tapping into our natural abilities to experience ecstasy we can discover a powerful sexuality that is beyond either what the body looks like or sexual performance. We can explore sensuality using touch as enjoyment within itself, in terms of giving and receiving. It is the opposite of physical sex which is performed for the goal of orgasm.
Tantra is about being in the moment of the enjoyment of sensual pleasure, accessing the capability of phenomenal connection that brings true contentment and happiness. We have the capacity to go beyond physical sex to an experience that involves the mind, emotions, feelings, passion, and presence.
Learning how to experience our true potential through real intimacy creates deeper connections and more satisfying relationships.
The ancient Egyptians didn’t believe that sex was a sin. In Egyptian times the phallus of the Pharaoh created union between heaven and earth though love making with his Queen. Patriarchy has twisted this meaning so that in Victorian times the word ithyphallic meant ‘grossly indecent’.
Isis was an Egyptian goddess who was worshipped for thousands of years by the Greeks and Romans until Christianity banned her worship in the sixth century.
Isis loved the god Osiris who was killed by Set, his jealous brother, who scattered the dismembered pieces of Osiris’ body throughout Egypt. Isis searched for each body part peice by piece but was unable to locate the penis which had been eaten by fish in the Nile. In order to resurect Osiris she had to make love to him so she created a golden phallus which is a symbol of the ancient sexual wisdom known as the Mysteries of Isis.
Initiation grants the sacred privilege of seeing the Realm of the Gods and receiving divine vision which is beyond the illusion of Time.
Mary Magdelene had been a High Priestess initiated into the Isis Mysteries in a previous incarnation in Ancient Egypt.
When asked at what moment the Kingdom would come, Jesus replied: ‘When the two shall become one, outside like the inside, the male with the female, neither male nor female.’ http://earlychristianwritings.com/thomas/gospelthomas22.html
This is very different from the way Catholicism and Christianity regard sex, which was decided by Augustine. Hebelieved his erection was his physical body’s betrayal of the spirit, so he deemed sex to be shameful, evil, and the work of the devil.
The church doesn’t recognise that sex is the universal life force because it can give direct access to God which would eliminate the control of the church over humanity. Instead humanity has feared and repressed sexuality, particularly that of women.